Sexual Liberation in a Prudish Society

What is a person that is sexually liberated supposed to do in a society like ours?  Unfortunately, with the advancement of technology, viewpoints are still remaining the same.  Just look at the myths of the last post.  Those are still thoughts that people have.  With people higher up in politics saying things like "Women should go back to the practice of holding a dime between their knees," it is a wonder that anyone could feel any sort of liberation.  So what is a person of said liberation to do?

The simple answer is....IGNORE them.  People that are liberated in any sense are always going to be misunderstood.  It is not your job to help them understand.  It is really up to them to arise to the next level.

I know this isn't the easiest thing to deal with.  Sadly, the most sexually repressed people are hiding behind the mask of Christianity and enjoy using parts of the bible to call sex dirty.  Contrarily, the bible never even hints at sex being dirty.  Some of the most beautiful erotic material is in the bible, but this isn't a pitch on Christianity.  Nevertheless, Sexual liberation doesn't mean you must forfeit your faith.  Another person's lack of deliverance has nothing to do with your liberation.

I have actually gotten to the point where I will laugh at ignorant comments. Not only are they wrong medically and ethically, they are actually laughable.  Once a person knows better, it only makes sense that they would do better, and past thoughts just seem immature.

One thing I have found as I have achieved my own status of liberation is that people's opinion of you becomes more and more insignificant as you mature.  A sexually liberated person may find himself/herself casting aside any other thoughts of people on the matter.  Honestly, that is perhaps the most effective method to take.  As stated, YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE!!!  Therefore, you don't have to answer to anyone about your views on sex, sexuality, sexual identity, or anything in that arena.  You can really just IGNORE THEM.  It is a beautiful thing.

What Does it Mean to be Sexually Liberated?

Sexual liberation...sexual liberation... It sounds so formal.  It sounds complex and intricate.  To the lay-person, it may seem quite complicated.  It may often seem scary or awkward to think that people that are sexually liberated are out there terrorizing the streets with their ambiguous perspectives.  However, one may be surprised to find out that they may be standing next to a sexually liberated person next to the "water cooler" or in line at your favorite fast food restaurant or grocery store. 

So here is my attempt to demystify what it means to be sexually liberated by correcting some of the unspoken rules of the mentality.

Myth #1 Sexual liberation = Promiscuity

*sighs*  I figured that we should go ahead and get this one out of the way.  Believe it or not having many sexual partners either consecutively or simultaneously is not a criteria for sexual liberation.  Crazy right!!!  How can this be?  Well...what is there to prove?  If you are sexually liberated, you are comfortable in your own sexuality.  You don't feel the need to take on partners just to prove a point.  Being promiscuous becomes a decision and not a requirement.  Often promiscuity is considered to be a product of low self-esteem or some other psychological disorder.  However, what about the people that just enjoy casual sex?  Within the realm of safety and transparency, there isn't really an issue for the people that fall under this category.  They just accept that they like sex and enjoy it.  The same goes for people that are on the other end of the spectrum...celibacy.  Liberated people can be celibate.  I know...I know...it sounds weird to use the terms "sexual" and "celibate" in the same sentence.  Stretch your minds a little.  However, if you are liberated you have nothing to prove, so your celibacy is the product of a decision that you made.  Wouldn't it be great to just decide to do something without the pressure of society?  Well...guess what...???

Myth #2 Sexual liberation = "Crazy sex"

This one was quite funny to hear about, but at the same time it is quite sad that we think this way.  While it is true that sexual liberation implies an understanding that people have certain needs, fetishes, wants, desires, and fantasies, it doesn't mean that a sexually liberated person will accept all of these things for himself or herself.  The implication of such plays a much bigger role in how society views sex that it can be quite scary.  A sexually liberated person can enjoy vanilla or missionary sex.  The key is that they know what they like and what they don't like.  They are also not going to condemn another person for he or she may or may not like.

Myth #3 Sexual liberation = the Fall of Society

As far-fetched as this sounds, with the state of our political climate, it is necessary.  Sexual liberation is not going to bring about the wrath of Sodom and Gomorrah.  Quite the contrary, I think it will save us.  The sooner we stop thinking of sex as this dirty thing, the sooner we can embrace what sex really is.  A sexually liberated person can define that for himself or herself.  A sexually liberated person doesn't feel guilty for becoming well informed about their bodies.  That in itself will eliminate a lot of problems of society. 

So now that is out of the way, "what is sexual liberation?"  In a nutshell, it is acceptance of yourself as a sexual human being in its entirety.  It involves a continuous examination into your likes, dislikes, desires, fantasies, orientations.  It involves being honest with yourself and seeing that you may like some things that are outside of the norm.  It also means finding out that you may abhor things that are considered "traditional."  It is about self-awareness.  It is about knowing who you are and being okay with it.  To put it simply...it is CONFIDENCE.